I am so shamefaced as I have been one of the most inept bloggers on this site since November last year. No excuses but trying to launch a new business for women of colour and by women of colour to be seen as mainstream..ish has not been an easy ride!
I promise better attendance from now on!
The blogs from me will mostly be about my experience as an African mother trying to be a success in a filed where there are hardly any black women owners let alone African. The list is long –
Access to finance
Access to successful networks
Reaction from different groups
..but today I want to talk about men. Why men automatically give me advice when I say I am a business owner. This is also not just men but black men. 99% of the black men I come across offer me advice within 5 minutes of talking to me. I do not get this from white men or women, who are impressed that I can be so brave in a recession, ask how I decided to get into that and also 100% of my funding offers are from white men and women (the reason for that is more complicated as it is linked to access of wealth – another blog).
Note of caution – not saying ALL black men do this, I am saying that all the black men I have met have done this. Ranging from family, friends, new acquaintances, you name it!
So why is it that I can get this reaction from black men? I have no idea. The advice I get get varies. I get the most basic ones like
-if I have registered my business
-know that business is hard
-Do I monitor hits on my website
-Do I have a business plan
– A common one is getting told not to expect it to be easy…
Guys I have already said I have been self employed for 5 years why do you think I expect ease! Also, only black men feel they can ask me how much I have invested in my business the first time they meet me! What’s all that about?
If I sub-group even further to my African brothers, well, I think my experience is even more common!
Guys, I know there is this innate need to look after us women but give me some time to interact with you, give yourself space to understand the context,THEN give me advice which I am sure will be very helpful to me and give you the satisfaction you have helped a woman get to where she needs to be. 😉
I am asking for just 5 minuites of your time, so thought blog should be just as long!
I do welcome your views on this and I am sure the men will have a lot to add to this?